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Wisdom on life balance from Bob Proctor’s “Insight of the Day”

Bob Proctor’s daily e-mail newsletters sometimes contain absolute gems. This one I just have to pass on.

Heart Health Specialist Dr. Cynthia Thaik wrote recently about creating life balance. Take particular note of the details in her four bolded bullet points: Build sources of renewable energy; Lower your stress response; Connect with your inner self; and Learn to become present in the moment. What’s covered in those points are basically what Eurythmia’s all about.

Here’s Bob Proctor’s post of Dr Thaik’s article:

The Heart of Health:

 

 

“Achieving Work Life Balance” Checklists

Here is a series of checklists, which can help promote work life balance.

Achieving personal and family balance

  • Learn how to say no – diplomatically.
  • Whatever you’re doing, concentrate on that, and don’t be focusing your mind on past events or future plans.
  • Turn off distractions – no mobile phone, TV or email alerts! If you’re spending time with family, friends, or yourself, make it quality time.
  • Create some space for yourself at the beginning of the day. Meditate, or just give yourself some quiet time to enjoy that cup of coffee or read the newspaper.
  • Pursuing spiritual activities is not a waste of valuable time! Perhaps this could be a time for morning meditation, or for others an early morning surf could be their ‘spiritual salute to the morning’. You choose!
  • Share roles, particularly in housework. There is no place in an advanced culture in the 21st Century for housework to be arbitrarily divided up along the lines of traditional sex roles. Divide up tasks by all means – but be absolutely clear who is supposed to do what! You may actually prefer to divide tasks along traditional gender lines – if al parties genuinely agree, why not? But don’t use it as an excuse to fob off the drudge tasks on to one person, while the other gets the ‘fun’ tasks. You need to be fair in the division of labour. And have regular reviews of the tasks to make sure no-one’s feeling resentful, because things have been working out differently in practice than in theory! In other words – communicate!
  • Written lists and timetables are useful. If everything is set down, you have a plan, probably a schedule and a checklist all rolled into one. And there’s less room for misunderstanding, shirking or slacking off. There it is in black and white. (Or colour, if you prefer!) Lists and timetables can be made for chores, finances, health and fitness programs, knowing where everyone is or is supposed to be at any given time, as well as for planning holidays, events to attend and so on.
  • Schedule down-time and block out things on your calendar for quality time with family members. Write it in – it gives you something to look forward to as well as helping you plan.
  • Always leave time to do something you enjoy doing that has no tangible connection to your ‘responsibilities’. Time to enjoy yourself and be creative, relax, perhaps pursue a hobby.
  • Do personal development and other activities mentioned on this website.
  • Avoid or at least limit exposure to negative people who drain you of energy.
  • If you can afford it, outsource things that can free up some of your time. Have someone else do your lawn mowing, get a cleaner. As well as making time for yourself, you’re supporting others in their aspirations.
  • Get enough exercise and movement in the fresh air.
  • When you’re away from work, disconnect.

Achieving balance at work

  • If you’re commuting to and from work, have your radio station tuned to relaxing music – classical is ideal!
  • Approach your employer and enquire about whether they have work life balance policies, and point out the benefits if they haven’t. You might be able to arrange a flexible working agreement that will benefit both parties.
  • Always present any suggestions in a win/win situation for both parties. But if the employer is not willing to play ball, be polite and quietly consider your options after you’ve had some time to think about the situation.
  • Flexible working arrangements may include telecommuting or working from home at least some days in the week; part-time work; job sharing; time off in lieu; flexible hours or flexitime; a staggered return to work in the event of returning from an extended absence through illness, maternity/paternity leave etc; agreements on a set number of hours to work over a week, a fortnight or a year; possibilities for study leave or professional development; possibilities to redesign your work; and other ideas. Much of this is now enshrined in legislation. Find out what the rules for your work situation are.
  • Know when to walk away from any situation. There’s a difference between perseverance, which is a positive trait, and stubbornness, which is negative. But sometimes, if you’re the person involved, it’s hard to know when you’ve crossed that line.
  • Be prepared to downshift, sea-change or tree-change, if the work life balance destabilisation all becomes too much, or if you’re not getting out of the arrangements the results you want. It’s all very well to make yourself a multi-millionarire by the time you’re 30, but if you’re dead from overwork at 40, that’s not a good trade-off.
  • Multi-tasking is a croc. It is not as wonderful as its proponents (who are probably Facebook, e-mail and TV addicts!) claim it is. Studies show most multi-tasking results in less efficient and polished task completion than if you concentrate on one thing at a time.
  • Listen to your body. If you’re not feeling well, rest. If you are really ill, it is just stupid to go to work and infect everyone you meet. That TV advertisement we probably all know with the jingle “soldier on with XXXX, soldier on” panders to workaholics and short-sighted employers, as well as making billions for the particular pharmaceutical company. But how happy is your employer going to be if, instead of one person at home in bed with the flu, 25% of the workforce is off, just because someone is obsessed with ‘soldiering on’. It’s not the Siege of Leningrad! The city will not fall if you are in bed ill for a couple of days!
  • Avoid or at least limit exposure to negative people who drain you of energy.
  • When you’re away from work, disconnect.

If you are an employer or manager

  • In the normal work routine, schedule one work day a week with NO Meetings – and enforce it.
  • Have someone chair meetings who can do it efficiently, who can run them on time, who can quickly cut to the core of an issue, and who can diplomatically but firmly cut wafflers and ‘me-me-me-people’ off. At meetings the 80/20 rule is that 20% of the participants waste 80% of the time, because they don’t know when to shut up!
  • Investigate how flexible working arrangements may increase employees’ job satisfaction, loyalty and productivity. Such arrangements might include telecommuting or working from home at least some days in the week; part-time work; job sharing; time off in lieu; flexible hours or flexitime; a staggered return to work in the event of returning from an extended absence through illness, maternity/paternity leave etc; agreements on a set number of hours to work over a week, a fortnight or a year; possibilities for study leave or professional development; possibilities to redesign an employee’s work; and other ideas. Much of this is now enshrined in legislation. Find out the rules and consider what arrangements could suit your firm.
  • Happy employees want to be innovative, indulge their creative intelligence, and expand their skills. This could provide you with innovations and benefits you never dreamed of.
  • Delegate. Trust your people, allow them room to succeed and to show what they can do.
  • If you give employees a choice in their rostering, they will feel more control, and you will reap the benefits.
  • Maintain an enlightened and common sense attitude towards sick leave. If an employee is really ill, it is counterproductive for them to go to work and infect other employees, or to undermine their health or recovery. How happy will you be if, instead of one person at home in bed with the flu, 25% of your workforce is off sick, just because someone (perhaps you) was obsessed with ‘soldiering on’. It’s not the Siege of Leningrad! The city will not fall if an employee is home in bed ill for a couple of days!
  • Avoid or at least limit exposure to negative people who drain you of energy.
  • Germany has been running democratic workplaces for decades, in which all employees of the company feel they can have a say in how things are done, where they can share ownership and management of the company (even with profit-sharing schemes!). It is a work model that benefits everyone, and can have surprisingly beneficial effects on the bottom line.
  • Allow for some buffer times where appropriate. Murphy’s Law (if something can go wrong, it will) is an immutable law of the universe, and sometimes time is just needed to catch up. If the diary is so artificially overloaded that, when something goes over time, the whole schedule is thrown out, there is something wrong with the planning.
  • Finally, many of the top entrepreneurs and other people successful in their fields also schedule in ‘thinking time’ – a time when nothing in particular is planned, a time for calm reflection, rumination, and an opportunity for the mind to naturally generate those spontaneous flashes of inspiration, which are often the keystone of dramatic breakthroughs or new innovations.